A question I found myself thinking after I had a natural straight forward birth experience with my Second Daughter.
As soon we arrived home and a Midwife visited the next day, she said goodbye and said we’ll see you for the next one,m I said you won’t but then thought…..hmm I thought I just didn’t feel ‘DONE’ She told me you know when you are DONE.
A couple of years flew by and I felt like things were starting to settle the girls were/still are good sleepers and I was starting to feel better in myself and even loosing weight and we’d just had an amazing holiday to America.
There were times when we’d discuss the idea of a third but it brought up so many points to consider. Yet came back to the decision we were more than happy with our two amazing girls.
So when considering another child, you think where will he/she sleep long term, the car you need to get another type to fit all three in full back car seats if they all still need them ( we did!) A couple of months before we did decide to go for an SMax. ( I missed my old car for a while because it had lots of nice extras ) Even though the Ford SMax is super economical and spacious so perfect for a larger family.
Splitting attention was also a tough one to think about and how would I even manage to look after three being so outnumbered? and then how would we arrange their bedrooms?
My third pregnancy was extremely hard. I was very sick for the first 20 weeks and then my gestational diabetes came back and had to take continually upped amounts of insulin and had numerous urine infections and more issues on top of all that, which I won’t go into.
When I found out I was expecting baby number three we were in absolute shock! However after the news had sunk in we were so excited and couldn’t wait for our growing addition to arrive.
Someone once said to me, You never regret the children you have and that is so very true.
I also think it’s more of a challenge with your first because you have to build the family and your whole life changes beyond recognition, However any subsequent children just fit into the family that has already been made.
So in May last year our final baby, Jake arrived ( we knew his gender from a scan in January 2018 ) and couldn’t be more happy, he completed our family perfectly. Yes at times it is a juggling act but my older girls are great with him and completely adore him. Jake’s face lights up when he see’s them.
Would you like a larger family? I also fully appreciate it is not always a choice for everyone.