“Do you feel done?”

A question I found myself thinking after I had a natural straight forward birth experience with my Second Daughter.

As soon we arrived home and a Midwife visited the next day, she said goodbye and said we’ll see you for the next one,m I said you won’t but then thought…..hmm I thought I just didn’t feel ‘DONE’ She told me you know when you are DONE.

A couple of years flew by and I felt like things were starting to settle the girls were/still are good sleepers and I was starting to feel better in myself and even loosing weight and we’d just had an amazing holiday to America.

There were times when we’d discuss the idea of a third but it brought up so many points to consider. Yet came back to the decision we were more than happy with our two amazing girls.

So when considering another child, you think where will he/she sleep long term, the car you need to get another type to fit all three in full back car seats if they all still need them ( we did!) A couple of months before we did decide to go for an SMax. ( I missed my old car for a while because it had lots of nice extras ) Even though the Ford SMax is super economical and spacious so perfect for a larger family.

Splitting attention was also a tough one to think about and how would I even manage to look after three being so outnumbered? and then how would we arrange their bedrooms?

My third pregnancy was extremely hard. I was very sick for the first 20 weeks and then my gestational diabetes came back and had to take continually upped amounts of insulin and had numerous urine infections and more issues on top of all that, which I won’t go into.

When I found out I was expecting baby number three we were in absolute shock! However after the news had sunk in we were so excited and couldn’t wait for our growing addition to arrive.

Someone once said to me, You never regret the children you have and that is so very true.

I also think it’s more of a challenge with your first because you have to build the family and your whole life changes beyond recognition, However any subsequent children just fit into the family that has already been made.

So in May last year our final baby, Jake arrived ( we knew his gender from a scan in January 2018 ) and couldn’t be more happy, he completed our family perfectly. Yes at times it is a juggling act but my older girls are great with him and completely adore him. Jake’s face lights up when he see’s them.

Would you like a larger family? I also fully appreciate it is not always a choice for everyone.

baby bump

Baby Bump Number 3! Induction started ……. May 2018

Early January 2018
Gender reveal – January 2018

Maternity Leave

For me a few months after the initial birth, recovery, sleep deprivation  starts to lift I find myself wondering what I will do when my maternity leave is up, whilst I am not wishing the time away quite the opposite in fact, It does make me think am I doing what’s best for my children and our family. How will we cope with x3 drop off’s and pick up’s in different places? for example.

Questions like should I not return to work, instead of paying extortionate amounts of money in childcare or should I find a more local job closer to home? These are all thoughts currently going round in my head. That I need to make sense of,  Financially I still need to work and I love the satisfaction and sense of pride that comes with my job that I am currently on maternity leave from.

I know that I will definitely not being having any more children ( 3 for us is a great number and slightly scary! ) And the last pregnancy was truly difficult, with gestational diabetes ( insulin controlled ) Horrendous morning sickness and several other issues without wanting to bore anyone reading this!

I’m hoping that as time passes I’ll feel more comfortable with what my future holds work wise and so aware that they are only little for the tiniest amount of time so want to make the most of it whilst still bringing in an income.  I know this is known as ‘Mum guilt’  and it really is.

At the end of my last maternity leave with my second daughter I volunteered on the maternity ward where I would end up having all of my children, It was a great experience. I was able to help support new mothers with nappy changes, making up bottles, attending to call bells and just general company if they were alone. Towards the end of the 3 months I was trusted to do several tasks which I really enjoyed and getting to know patients who had been in a little longer. This is a field I’m really passionate about since becoming a Mother and wonder if this is somewhere my future lies. The other question for me is juggling what would be shift work with my husbands day and occasional evening work.  Sadly I had to give up the volunteering after 3 months because it was tricky juggling it with going back to work and my husbands work.

At this point, three months post the birth of my third baby, I am just going to enjoy him and my girls.

Baba Bing Day Tripper City Deluxe Changing Bag – Review

Being pregnant with my 3rd baby, it was time to buy a new changing bag as pretty much starting from scratch with all baby items.  As our 3rd baby is to be a boy we decided to choose a bag in the colour grey as it matched our Mountain Buggy duet which is also grey.

The Baba Bing bag has many useful features my favourite being that you can reach straight into it when out and about whilst attached to a buggy using the clips enclosed, this shows it must have been designed by parents who are forever reaching in and out of changing bags for wipes and snacks!

The bag is also waterproof essential for when out and about in the UK! It has many useful compartments which are pictured so you know straightaway where to put various items such as nappies/ wipes. Another great feature is the ‘bin’ section underneath the bag where nappies/ rubbish can be stored until you reach an actual bin.

The link to the bag is below.

https://www.johnlewis.com/bababing-daytripper-city-deluxe-2016-changing-bag-grey/p2491195

This is my own opinion of the bag and not been paid / gifted to review.

 

Coping with Gestational Diabetes

Insulin

Gestational diabetes was something I’d heard of but didn’t know much about. I was diagnosed at around 32 weeks in my second pregnancy in 2015 and initially found it tricky monitoring my blood sugar I didn’t need to go onto insulin until the last couple of weeks but seemed to be ok on the metformin tablets they gave.

Third time round I had an early glucose tolerance test ( which involves having a blood test, drinking a high sugar drink then another blood test  to see how your body tolerates sugar ) at 14 weeks pregnant which came back as normal then another at 24 weeks which frustratingly didn’t. I was then referred to the diabetic team at the Hospital who have pretty much handled my care since.

Initially my diabetes was diet controlled then a couple of weeks later my glucose levels started to creep up, then it was decided I’d try metformin just one a day but had an awful reaction to it in the form of agonising pains and an upset stomach.

So at that point it was decided to start insulin which I’ve had the levels gradually increased thereafter.

Insulin injections take a little getting used to but the needle is fine so doesn’t hurt just a sharp scratch as long as you remember to rotate the injection point and use a fresh needle each time.

Also it’s remembering to monitor blood sugar for me four times a day plus the 4 insulin injections which are done either at the top of the thigh or lower stomach.

The only benefit I guess is more scans at least every month, more frequent checks of my pregnancy levels and getting to listen to the heart beat, I am extremely luckily as feel my antenatal care has been excellent and now feeling more positive than I did when I initially found out I had the gestational diabetes.